Perfectionism no more


Last Thursday I was about to submit a post when something changed.

My post about a mother and her passed daughter received a comment on Facebook from someone who wrote that the only thing she could see was missing words and grammatical errors.

I come from Denmark so even though I am fairly fluent in English, it is not my native language. This comment anyway hit me because I want to be perfect and I really make an effort to write without too many errors. That is the perfectionist in me, which will always be there.

I have spent a lot of my life looking for errors and mistakes, both my own and other people’s, but I have changed during the last years. Now I try to keep my focus on how people are as souls, not their flaws.

I think that maybe that woman who wrote this comment is in a certain place in her life, where she needs to point out other’s flaws. That’s also why I don’t feel sorry for her or even get angry with her. I’m finally at a point where I can think that it says a lot more about her than me. I might even be grateful, because she made me look at myself and see that I have changed.

I feel that the message of my posts is far more important than whether they are grammatically perfect. Nobody is perfect anyway, so I am just trying to be the best “me” that I can be.

Have you thought about your changes?

Are you trying to be perfect, or just doing your best?