I want to be normal; a woman said to me when I talked to her, just for one or two days and not worry all the time. I understood her with, but her sensitivity was not anything she could change.
She was brought up in a family that did not understand the sensitive mind and the razor-sharp brain she had. They thought she was weird and did not understand anything she wanted in life. In their defense, it was a different time because it was before the talk about yoga, mindfulness, and spirituality that came to our everyday life. They knew no better.
The woman came to me because she had once again received a blow from her family. A message that very clearly said we do not in any way understand you, and we think you do horrid things. She was in tears and wanted to know what I thought.
I told her she should not close her heart but remove herself from the hurt and anger of the relationship. The relationship was as it had been as far back as she remembered a fragile one and a toxic one. I told her I do not believe we should accept anything and everything just because they are blood-related. She should be grateful they taught her what she did not want to be, and that she was a fighter and survivor.
I have for too many years held on to relations that were toxic in hopes that people would change and understand, but in reality, I was the one who needed to understand my relationship with my soul. So was this woman on her path to do. We all need to focus on our soul’s work and how we can live mindful of other living things.
We are not alone in any way and exist only because other things exist. We live because there is food, clothes, water, earth to live on and so many other things.
We are, in essence, never alone, even when we feel alone. We are surrounded by millions upon millions of things that depend on us as we rely on them. It is all a cycle of life.
When we are faced with souls who do not trust us or that we are all connected and equal souls, or do not understand us, then we have choices to make. We can either stay in the toxic connection, or we can decide it has outlived itself and remove us from it.
I told her that only she could make this choice, and it was not an easy one. I advised her to look at what she had and what good the relationship brought her. We are all connected, even when we disconnect from others. You can only take so much; then you must remove yourself.
Be you in your soul
If you are in a situation where your relationship with someone is not one of love but one of obligation and sorrow, you need to think about what it does to you as a person and as a soul. Let go of what no longer serves you. You cannot change others, but yourself and this is the essence of all connections in our lives.