A woman asked me this question some time ago.
I told her that he did not move or change one inch; she just saw him for what he is. She changed and saw him with new and much clearer eyes.
She had changed so much in the last year that she had not even realized that her own change made her see people differently.
Her husband was one of the people who did not change with her. He was just the same man as before—no change and not understanding her change either.
It was hard for her to suddenly realize that he was not who she thought him to be and that he would never change. If he had wanted to change, he would have done so.
I know it is easy to say someone should change with their spouse, but not all can. Sometimes souls meet, fall in love, get married, and then they drift apart again. It is all part of the contracts they made amongst their souls before coming here and agreeing to teach one another.
It can be very hard to feel the change and not have your partner change with you.
The new light or new eyes make it impossible to stay together, and there is nothing you can do about it.
She was very set on divorce was a failure. She did not want to be like her friends who were either bitter with their ex, or out chasing men constantly. I told her that staying with someone you don’t love for you not to be alone was the failure. Not following your heart and not working on the feeling of loneliness would be much lonelier in the long run.
Follow your heart
If you follow your heart and listen to your soul, you know that living without love and, most importantly, respect for yourself is unauthentic. If you want to listen to your soul, you need to be in a loving environment. Then you can love yourself enough to move away from loveless situations.
I know that to some, it can sound very harsh, but the reality is you need love to be happy. I want you to be happy, to feel love, and choose to listen to your soul.