What kind of conversation do you choose?
I went to a Christmas market a few weeks ago. I had a place there, where I had put my posters and postcards on display. On top I had a deck of angel cards so visitors could draw one and we could talk about it. I love talking to people, they always have so many lovely stories to tell.
One of the things I see a lot of the time, is that men tend to say “I don’t believe in that stuff” and more often than not, they refuse to participate. A few even said “that is my wife’s craziness.”
I often let go and say nothing when men have negative comments like that. They are going to talk to me when they are ready, and a lot of men are never ready.
One man did talk to me, and when I told him what I was getting, he looked at me in a way that only someone who understood could. I loved that he listened.
One man was so much fun to talk to because he was spending a lot of time trying to tell me how my line of work really is, and how none of the things I said was true. I find those people almost hilarious because they do not listen to what I say but try to come up with all kinds of “evidence” why what I say is wrong. He came up with one reason after another, and even called me a fraud.
On the other hand, he kept on saying that he believed there is more to life than what we see.
I am firm believer in the fact that I am not the one to convince people. I don’t need people to believe me. What I do need is for people to respect me, and listen to me. I am not asking for anyone to be converted, but to show basic respect the same way they want me to believe them.
Do you remember the last time someone did not respect you in a conversation? What did you do?