You have a choice.
It is a simple choice that can be hard on some people. You can choose from so many things; be kind or be unkind, be loving or unloving, forgiving or unforgiving; it is a choice every day.
When I wake up every morning, I make a choice to be loving, open and to listen.
I met a woman the other day who said she had chosen to be mad, closed off and unhappy that day. I know her; she is a mother at my daughter’s school, and she was tired beyond belief. It was absolutely amazing that she was even standing.
I know why she made that choice and I know that it was her only choice that day when she was lacking so much sleep. Sometimes you cannot make those choices when you are that tired. Then you need to just be human.
Another woman was happy and that too was a choice.
I think too many people forget that they actually have a choice every morning. To some it just is what it is. That way, if they are angry getting out of bed or they are happy, that is what they are. They don’t fight it, it just is what it is.
I think a choice should be made every morning to find yourself and the core person you want to be. That way, whenever your day changes into something else, you can get back to your choice of emotion and stick with it. That way you are much more true to who you want to be and how you want to be.
I talked to a lady who had the worst day in a long time. I asked her to make the choice of feelings the next day. When I saw her some days later, she was happy and smiling. I asked her what changed. She said that she decided to be loving and kind. When her day went south, she took three deep breaths and went back to her choice. She decided that she was loving and kind, so other things would have to reflect it. It was so hard the first time, and the second time, but after a while she felt like she was in control.
Some days it is going to be almost impossible to stay with your choice, but it is worth a try. You owe it to yourself to be the best you.
Are you going to try?